Why is it that feminists never really seem to consider the fact that men can be forced to pay 18 years for a child they never wanted a problem? I mean we never hear about this from feminists! I'm genuinely curious.
Why is it that the same men complaining about paying never really seem to consider what it’s like for a woman having to spend 18 years of her life dedicated to caring for the “unwanted” child?
Obviously it’s a two-way street. The bottom line is that it takes two to tango— biologically, a man and a woman form the baby together. And unless they are willing to have an abortion or put the baby up for adoption, it is both of their duties to raise the kid.
Societal (read: patriarchal) gender roles dictate that the mother should provide primary care, and that the father should help financially. Feminist critiques would argue against these binary roles, but they certainly wouldn’t give a free-escape card to men who just don’t want to help with the child that’s half theirs.
In fact, many feminists disagree on the topic of alimony payments. Some argue that they are a sexist construction that maintains the notion of women’s inability to support themselves and resulting reliance on men. Others argue that they are “retroactive pay for years of free labor” (x) that make up for career sacrifices made by women who conform to traditional familial constructs.
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